1.
Stop dwelling.
Past
is precious. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from others’ mistakes. Remember
the good times. Remember the people.
Forget
the pain and the tears.
Let
the heartaches heal.
The
pain is just training; it doesn’t define you. Think about what went wrong but
only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people
around you will make sure that it goes right.
2.
Stop
buying possession, start buying experiences.
Instead
of buying that extravagant piece of diamond, why not go on a trip to that
little hill station?
No
doubt buying things makes us feel better immediately, but at the end of the day
it’s the experiences that count.
They
enrich us in more ways than one could imagine.
3. Pay compliments.
Start
paying compliments. If you like someone’s hairdo or their shoes or their smile,
go ahead, tell them. Tell them you find them beautiful, with a smile. And the
moment you do that, you will feel better about yourself. The idea behind this
is when you know you can make someone feel better about themselves, you
automatically feel good about yourself too.
Believe
me, this works.
4.
Stop
blaming, Foster forgiveness.
When
you blame others for a mistake they did, you yourself carry half a burden of
their faults on your shoulders.
If
the loss is too big you can be mad at them for awhile as it is inevitable but
in the end let go of it. Holding onto grudges will only increase your pain.
5.
The
gratitude diary
Maintain
a gratitude diary. Write down all the things you are grateful for.
A
baby looked at you and smiled in the morning. You felt nice about it, write it
down in your diary.
Doing
this exercise kills the bitterness and despair and promotes happiness.
6.
Do
what you like. Live your dreams.
This
is a very simple and easy thing to do.
But
we rarely we do it, screw anything that doesn’t make you happy.
You
like eating ice creams?
Well
go out and eat as much you want, all that you want.
You
like reading?
Sit
all day at home and read all that you love.
You
like dancing but due to something or the other you never got a chance to take
your dancing onto another level.
I
say, do it right now. Go get yourself enrolled into a dance school or become a
dance teacher, go and try your luck in a reality show. Do it! Curbing our desires
for the sake of fitting in the society or under any other pressure is no good. Do
what you really want to.
7.
Learn
something new.
Think of a subject that you wish you knew more
about and spend 15 minutes on the Internet reading about it, or go to a
bookstore and buy a book about it. But be honest! Pick up a topic that really interests you, not something that you think you 'should' know or 'need to' learn about.
8.
Smile!
Indeed
the simplest step to happiness.
Even if you don’t feel
like it, fake it! Research shows that even a fake smile induces harmones that
make you feel better instantly.
According
to Henry David Thoreau: "Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you
chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other
things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder."
With all due respect to the
author of Walden, that just isn't so, according to a growing number of
psychologists, you can choose to be happy, they say. You can chase
down that elusive butterfly and get it to sit on your shoulder by taking time to reflect,
and making conscious steps to make your life happier. It really does work!
No comments:
Post a Comment